90 Thoughtful Sympathy Messages

11 Tips on What to Write in a Sympathy Card

1. It’s always better to say something

We’ve partnered with Untangle, a bereavement support community and helpline, to offer the best advice for writing a sympathy card. The Untangle team supports thousands of bereaved families and friends, and has all the tips you need to give your loved one support at this difficult time…

Some people avoid sending sympathy cards because they’re scared of saying the ‘wrong’ thing, but the truth is, it’s always better to say something. Acknowledging your loved one’s grief is important. If you’re really struggling with the right words, a simple ‘thinking of you’ or ‘I’m here for you’ can be enough. There are no words that can truly make them feel better, but the knowledge that they’re loved and cared for will be a comfort

2. It’s never too early or too late

There’s no wrong time to send a sympathy card; it’s never too early or too late. So don’t think the window has passed just because it’s been a few weeks (or even months) since your loved one became bereaved. Many who are grieving say that the care and contact from friends tends to drop off not long after a funeral so, actually, sending something later can be a really thoughtful way of showing you remember. Grief has no timeline, so even though it may seem late to you, you’re really acknowledging something that still feels fresh to them, and that they live with every day.

3. Mark the occasions

Anniversaries, birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day… Special days can be painful for bereaved people, so a small gesture to let them know you’ve remembered can mean so very much in the most difficult moments. The ‘firsts’ are painful, but the years that follow are just as challenging, so consider making it an annual gesture.

4. Share a memory of the person they lost

If you were close or have standout memories of the person your loved one has lost, share it with them in the card. Even if, to you, it seems like a small or silly story, to them it’s something to treasure. If you didn’t know the person well, maybe mention the times your loved one spoke about them or the impact they had on their lives; a small acknowledgement of the depth of their love and the relationship they shared.

5. Be specific with offers of help

‘Let me know if there’s anything you need,’ is a kindness to those who are bereaved, but they may feel too shy or too awkward to ask for help or specify what they need the most. They may not even know what they need – brain fog is common for those who are grieving – so try a question instead: ‘Is there anything I can do?’ You could also make specific offers, such as ‘I can pick up food for you and leave it on the doorstep’ or ‘I can cook you something/clean/do laundry.’ Don’t wait for them to ask.

6. Don’t compare your loss

All grief is relative to the person experiencing it, which means comparisons – well-meaning as they may be – aren’t often helpful to those going through a difficult time. Take care not to make your message about yourself or your experiences, and instead focus on sending support to the bereaved person in your card.

7. Follow up with future wishes

Sadly, grief isn’t something your loved one is simply going to ‘move on’ from. It comes in waves, with some periods being more difficult than others. That’s why we suggest sending sympathy cards long after the event also – even just a short ‘thinking of you’ follow-up a few months after the first card can mean a lot.

8. Consider grief across cultures

Not everyone has the same religious, cultural or spiritual beliefs, so it’s important to be mindful of what your loved one believes in when writing a sympathy card. While you might find comfort in hoping that the ones we have lost are looking down on us, the person you are writing to might not believe in an afterlife. If you know that they do, you could add a little message that nods to those beliefs, but if you’re unsure, avoid putting it in your sympathy card.

9. Steer clear of advice or predictions

Instead of trying to give advice or telling someone who’s bereaved how they’re going to feel, it’s enough to simply show your support and give them room to talk. If they decide they want to seek advice or ask about your experiences, they will do so in time.

10. Include the family in your greeting

If the person you’re writing to lives with others who are grieving (such as their partner, their parents or their children), you might want to include their names when addressing the card. You could also write two separate sympathy cards: one that’s more personal to the person you’re closest to, and another for the whole family.

11. Don’t expect a response

Your loved one may feel too overwhelmed to respond right now. Remind them that this is okay, that they don’t have to reply, and that you’ll be there when they’re ready to talk.

90 Sympathy Messages Examples

Here are a few examples of sympathy messages to inspire you when you write a sympathy card.

Short and Simple Sympathy Messages

1. I'm sorry for your loss.

2. Sending love at this difficult time.

3. My heart goes out to you.

4. Here to support you in whatever way possible.

5. I’m sorry that you’re going through this.

6. Giving you all the love and support you need.

7. You are not alone, we love you.

8. Rest in peace to a beautiful individual.

9. Wishing you strength and comfort during such a difficult time.

10. My thoughts are with you.

Sympathy Messages for a Friend

1. I’m so sad to hear the news about X. I remember the day we first met and he cracked one of his jokes, and I knew we’d be firm friends. He’ll be greatly missed.

2. Hearing the news about X’s passing hit us both hard. She talked about you and the children all the time. Do you remember when she learned your wedding song so we could play it at your anniversary party? She wanted that day to be so special.

3. I’m thinking of you constantly, sending all my love and prayers during this difficult time. I’m here for you whenever you need a friend, no matter what.

4. I know this time must feel incredibly heavy, but you don’t have to carry it alone. I’m just a phone call away, whether you need someone to listen or just a quiet companion.

5. As you reflect on X’s beautiful life, know that my heart is with you. Their spirit will always remain in your heart, and I’m here, ready to support you in any way I can.

6. I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling right now, but please know you’re in my thoughts. I’ll keep you close in prayer and send you strength.

7. I can’t even begin to understand the heartache you're going through. Please know I’m thinking of you and hoping that, over time, you find moments of peace amidst this pain.

8. No words can ease your pain, but I want you to know that you’re not alone. Whenever you’re ready, I’m here for you, whether you need a listening ear or a quiet space.

9. I truly wish I could take away some of your pain, but I want you to know that I’m here for you in every possible way. I’m always just a call or text away, no matter what you need.

10. I’ll always treasure the memory of when we were all together, and I’ll hold that moment close. X was such a special part of our lives, and I’m sending you all my love and comfort. I’m here for you, every step of the way.

Sympathy Messages for a Colleague

1. X was truly a one-of-a-kind member of our team. The energy, the laughter, and the warmth they brought to our lives can never be replaced. We will always cherish the moments spent together. Please accept our heartfelt condolences.

2. Saying goodbye is never easy, especially when the love shared is so deep. Please know you're in our thoughts today and always.

3. Your daughter/son left a lasting mark on everyone she met. I’m incredibly thankful to have known her, both as a colleague and a friend. She’ll always be remembered with fondness.

4. Our hearts are with you during this time. Please accept our deepest sympathy as you navigate through this incredibly tough moment.

5. You and your family are in my thoughts. My sincerest condolences go out to you all, wishing you strength and comfort in this difficult time.

6. On behalf of all of us, we want to express our deepest sympathies. We are keeping you close in our hearts during this challenging time.

7. X was a truly beautiful soul, inside and out. Rest in peace, my dear friend. From quiet lunch breaks to our spontaneous chats, no one brought the same joy. You will be sorely missed.

8. We are deeply saddened by the loss of X. May the memories you shared bring comfort in the days ahead. Please remember how much light X brought to our team.

9. X’s presence blessed us in more ways than words can express. I’m grateful to have known them not just as a colleague but as a true friend.

10. Sending love, thoughts, and prayers to you and your family during this difficult time. Please know you’re not alone, and we are here for you.

Sympathy Messages for a Grandparent

1. Sending you all my love during this incredibly tough time. Rest assured that your grandfather/grandmother passed on his/her love of life, and you can see it in the grandkids. They’re a true reflection of him/her.

2. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your grandfather's/grandmother’s warmth and kindness are things I will never forget. My thoughts are with you, and I’m here for you in this time of need.

3. Your Grandma/Grandpa had a way of making everyone feel valued, and her/his kindness was contagious. I know you hold special memories with her/him, and I hope they bring comfort during this difficult time.

4. I’ll always cherish the wisdom your grandfather/grandmother shared with me. Everything I’ve learned from them will stay with me, and I’ll forever be grateful. May they rest in peace.

5. Your grandfather/grandmother was truly an extraordinary person, and I feel lucky to have known him/her. His/her spirit and generosity will always remain in my heart. He won’t be forgotten.

6. You’re in my thoughts during this challenging time. Your grandfather/grandmother lived a remarkable life, and I hope this moment gives us the chance to celebrate everything they accomplished.

7. They lived a long life full of joy, and I hope that brings some comfort. We’re with you every step of the way.

8. Sending you love, comfort, and guidance. You were blessed with such an amazing grandmother/grandfather, and I know she/he is proud of everything you do. Live your life in a way that honours her/his legacy.

9. Everything your grandfather/grandmother taught you will stay with you, and you can carry that forward to live your best life. Let him/her watch over you with pride, knowing you’re becoming the person he/she hoped for.

10. You’re not alone in this. We all know how much your grandmother/grandfather meant to you, and we’re here for you as you navigate through this painful loss.

Sympathy Messages for a Parent

1. Sending all our love as you remember your mum/dad. She/he raised an incredible person in you, and we’ll miss her/him dearly. Stay strong, we’re here for you.Your mum’s/dad’s amazing spirit lives on through you. During this difficult time, know that you’re in our thoughts and we’re sending you all our love and strength.

2. There was no one like your mum/dad. She/he was truly special, and her/his presence will always be felt in your heart. Wishing you peace and comfort as you cherish her/his memory.

3. Your mum/dad will always remain in our hearts, never forgotten. May the beautiful memories of her/him bring you some comfort in this tough time.

4. Your father/mother was such an inspiration in my life. I’ll never forget all the valuable lessons he/she taught me. You are his/her legacy.

5. I know words can’t ease the pain, but please know I’m here for you, and I share in your sorrow. You are in my thoughts during this heartbreaking time.

6. As you look back on the precious moments with your father/mother, may you find peace in knowing that he/she raised someone truly extraordinary.

7. A mother’s/father’s love is never-ending. Hold onto that love, for it will guide you through the toughest days ahead.

8. From everything I’ve heard, your mum/dad was an incredible woman/man. What beautiful memories you must have to carry with you, reminding you of the joy she/he brought into your life.

9. I believe that those we lose never truly leave us. Keep making your mum/dad proud, they’ll be watching over you always. You were their greatest gift.

10. Going through something like this is never easy, but remember to keep pushing forward. Thank you for being the best son/daughter X could’ve ever hoped for. You were their pride and joy.

Sympathy Messages for a Sibling

1. We love you so much. Stay strong. Your brother/sister's memory and legacy will live on forever. The countless beautiful stories from their incredible life will continue to inspire and be shared for generations to come.

2. Having such a remarkable sibling like you did must have been an incredible gift. You truly were their greatest support, and the love you shared will always be felt.

3. I’m keeping you close in my heart and thoughts. I hope the beautiful memories you built together bring you a sense of peace and comfort during this incredibly tough time.

4. The love your sibling gave to others will live on forever, especially through you. I hope you can feel their presence with you, guiding you through this sorrow.

5. The news of your sibling’s passing has left me deeply moved. They were not just family but a friend to many, and I know their impact will continue to resonate with all who knew them. My heartfelt sympathy to you.

6. I am so sorry for your loss. Your brother/sister’s memory will remain in our hearts forever. Please know that you’re in my thoughts, and I’m here for you, always.

7. Your sibling’s warmth and kindness will always be remembered. Whatever you need, we’re here to walk this journey with you, offering our support and love.

8. No words can truly express the sorrow of such a loss, but I hope that the memories of your sibling’s unwavering spirit help to carry you through. I’m here for you, always.

9. Losing a sibling is a pain unlike any other, and I want you to know I’m standing by you. Take strength from the love surrounding you, and lean on those who care for you.

10. It’s hard to imagine the pain of saying goodbye to a sibling, especially under such sudden circumstances. Please know that I’m here, grieving with you, and I’ll support you through every step of this journey.

Sympathy Messages for a Son/Daughter

1. No parent should ever have to bear the heartache of losing their child. My heart is with you during this impossible time, and I hope the love of those around you gives you strength.

2. The pain of losing a child is beyond words. I am truly sorry for your loss, and I hope that the beautiful memories you shared with them will offer you some comfort in the days ahead.

3. In the midst of this unimaginable sorrow, know that you are not alone. Your son/daughter’s spirit will forever be cherished and remembered by all who were lucky enough to know them.

4. Finding the right words feels impossible, but I want you to know how deeply sorry I am for your loss. Your son/daughter’s legacy of love and joy will stay in our hearts forever.

5. As you navigate through this time of grief, my heart aches for you. The memory of your son/daughter’s love and kindness will remain a beacon of light for us all.

6. The loss of your beloved child is felt by everyone who knew them. I hope the precious memories you shared provide you with some comfort as you mourn this difficult loss.

7. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Your son/daughter may have been taken too soon, but their impact on this world will never be forgotten.

8. In this time of grief, may the love and memories you shared with your son/daughter give you solace. Their spirit lives on in everyone whose life they touched.

9. My heartfelt condolences to your beautiful family. I can’t imagine the emptiness you’re feeling, but please know we are here for you. Thank you for bringing X into our lives.

10. I cannot begin to fathom the pain you are feeling. Please know that my thoughts are with you, and I am here to offer support in any way that helps as you grieve the loss of your precious son/daughter.

Sympathy Messages for a Partner/Spouse

1. Your husband/wife was such a remarkable person, his/her kindness and love will stay with us always. His/her memory will forever live in our hearts.

2. I am deeply sorry for your loss. While I didn't know your wife/husband personally, I could see the immense love you had for her/him. Please know I'm here for you, always.

3. The news of your wife’s/husband’s passing broke my heart. She/he was a beautiful soul, always kind and full of warmth. She/he will be sorely missed.

4. Your partner was truly one of a kind. The love they gave was extraordinary, and they will forever remain in my thoughts.

5. I'm so sorry to hear of X's passing. Thank you for sharing such a bright and passionate person with the world. We’re all here for you and will continue their legacy.

6. The bond you shared was so evident to all of us. I hope you find peace and comfort in the beautiful memories you created together. Sending all our love and strength.

7. Someone as extraordinary as your partner will never be forgotten. Our deepest sympathy and love are with you during this heart-wrenching time.

8. Losing someone so dear is unimaginable. My thoughts are with you, and I’m wishing you peace and strength during this incredibly difficult time.

9. I’ll always cherish the love you two shared. Your wedding was such a beautiful reflection of your deep connection, and that love will never truly fade.

10. Your love inspired so many of us. Thank you for sharing it so generously. May X rest in peace, forever remembered.

Sympathy Messages for a Sudden Loss

1. The pain of this sudden loss is beyond words. Please remember that you’re not alone, I’m here for you, every step of the way, with love and support.

2. Losing someone so dear leaves an emptiness that’s hard to bear. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Know that I’m here to help you through this tough time.

3. My heart breaks for you in this incredibly difficult moment. If you need someone to talk to, lean on, or just sit with, I’ll be here whenever you need me.

4. I can’t begin to imagine the shock and sorrow you're feeling. I’m sending you all my love and strength, hoping you find some comfort during this overwhelming time.

5. Life doesn’t seem fair sometimes, especially when we lose someone so precious. I’m truly sorry for your pain and am here for you as you navigate through this.

6. The grief of losing someone you loved so much is immense. I’m thinking of you, sending all my love, and hoping you find some peace in this heart-wrenching time.

7. You’re in my thoughts during this unimaginable loss. Though I can’t fully grasp the pain you’re feeling, please know that I’m here for you, no matter what you need.

8. Words seem so small right now, but please know my heart goes out to you. I’m here to support you, whether you need someone to talk to or just a shoulder to lean on.

9. I can’t even begin to process how this must feel for you, but I want you to know I’m by your side, offering all the love and comfort I can in these painful moments.

10. The weight of this loss is so heavy, and my heart aches for you. I’m here to walk this journey with you, offering love and a listening ear whenever you need it.

In times of loss, your words can provide the solace and strength that someone needs. While it’s never easy to find the right thing to say, these 100 sympathy messages offer a way to share your support and love. Whether you’re sending a brief note or a more thoughtful tribute, each message carries the warmth and care your loved ones need. 

If you’re looking for more ways to send support, take a look at our Sympathy Flowers. Every bouquet comes with a card you can personalise with a thoughtful message to show you care. Our friends at Untangle have lots more advice to help you understand grief and how to support a loved one who’s grieving. Check out their website, or send the link to your friend. They hold people’s hands through all the practical and emotional challenges that come after a death.